Everybody fantasizes about their wedding day. We imagine the close friends and family who will be present, the father leading the bride down the aisle, and the mother dancing with her son who will be the groom.
However, occasionally our plans do not work out as we had intended. It’s all about embracing life’s challenges…
Scooter Hightower cherished his mother beyond all other people and things. They were a close-knit family that shared all of their joyous occasions.
Even though it was a heartbreakingly tragic time, the clan undoubtedly became even closer as a result of it. Terri, Scooter’s mother, received an ALS diagnosis in December 2019. The neurological condition known as ALS, or amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, affects a person’s neurons that are responsible for regulating their voluntary muscular activity.
The fact that ALS has no known cure caused the entire family to be saddened. The family was aware that Terri’s unavoidable demise was drawing nigh. And when Terri gradually lost the capacity to speak, move, and even consume meals on her own in the summer of 2020, the end began to draw nigh. She needed a motorised wheelchair so she could go about independently!
She had a few desires she wanted to fulfill before she went away as her health deteriorated. Scooter stated that his mother’s desires were as follows: “She was waiting for her granddaughter, my niece, to be born, and she has been pregnant for the past six to seven months already, and then she was waiting for our wedding. She wished to attend our nuptials.
The date of Scooter’s nuptials was chosen on October 9, 2020. He carefully selected Thomas Finchum’s “Mothers” as the ideal tune to dance to with his mother. He made the decision with the aid of his sister!
Scooter wheeled his mother onto the dance floor at the start of the dance. With the assistance of his father, he lifted her out of her wheelchair. He embraced his mother, supported her weight, and gently danced with her in front of the 150 wedding guests. Not a single eye in the house was dry. Perhaps realizing that he did not have much time left with his mother, Scooter was also sobbing as he danced with her. His mother was entirely supported by her son during the dance, with her face nestled in the crook of his shoulder.
Throughout the dance, he murmured to his mother; it was a heartbreakingly lovely moment they shared.
Scooted eased his mother back into her wheelchair as the music started to fade. The bridegroom was now visibly crying. Scooter’s friends and relatives came up to them to show their support for him during this difficult time and to praise the lovely dance that his mother and son had shared.
Terri went unexpectedly at the young age of 57, only 10 days after her son’s wedding. She had worked as a paramedic for 30 years, and as a result of her dedication, 15 ambulances carried her body to the church.
Since then, Scooter has talked about his mother a lot, highlighting how kind she was and how many people she had aided in both her professional and personal lives. He also admitted that, prior to his mother’s diagnosis, he knew little about ALS and that, in the wake of her passing, he wanted to make others aware of the disease as well.
Neil Fox, the wedding’s photographer, captured a lovely video of the mother and son’s dance. The family asked that the film be made public after Terri died away so that people might learn more about ALS and what it can do to a person.
People from all over the nation connected with the Hightower family after seeing the video and expressed their sympathy for their loss and own experiences of having a family member diagnosed with ALS.
The exchange, according to Scooter’s new wife Afton, was quite emotional. Knowing that was her objective and realizing how much it meant to her and Scooter, she added, “It was a really bittersweet moment.”